Since my emotional drain and explosion of words to Pat (Which I am not sorry for) I am doing better today. I just so irritated with her and her big mouth daughter, I can just spit (Sorry). They just assumed that we didn't show up to " Their celebration Bon-fire after Dad' Gary Auction (His Equipment from the Sheds,/Barn, Tractors" was because the kids and I were still upset with "Big Mouth Kristy" and grieving dad's loss (Gee isn't that the right thing) when in fact, my son had a Band Contest that Saturday.
The reason why her e-mail upset me was that the last time I talked to Pat was in August to tell her that I was going in for surgery and how it would be a challenge to work around my son's band practices and upcoming football games and contests. That was the last time I heard from her, once to tell us about the bonfire a week before and two days ago when I got a nasty e-mail stating that since they haven't heard from us for a while, they wanted to know where they stood and if we didn't care, don't bother to e-mail back....Ahhhhhhhhh how nice, I e-mailed her back alright. Another statement she made was that she knew that it has been difficult since Jeff died and that we missed Jeff and Gary but so did she..we should just get over it..in another words...gee, its nice to know that she can "Just get over it" when her husband is only been gone little over three months
The upsetting thing to me is that, she never bothered to pay any attention to the kids and the activities they had for school, never came down to see my son (her grandson play at the games .) Never asked to see how the kids and I were doing, never bothered. She just expected us to show up at this "Bon-fire" and when we didn't she used it as an excuse to get back at us, even posting it on her Facebook Page how terrible we were. Even though I never said anything to her at all. Bating these kids with some of their grandfather Gary's things to get us to come up. She travels around Willard and went to Indiana. I told her plainly, that she could have checked on us, if she could drive all around Willard with her other grandchild, go to Indiana, then she can march her "fanny" down here. I'm not the only one who can communicate. She has free-time!
With all the Band Activity and Fundraising, for me I don't have too many free minutes. If bringing those things for the kids meant so much to dad then "Where Is She At?" even stooping as long as using money to get us to come up. I could tell her a good place to put it and it isn't between the mattress and box springs.
I know their grandpa Hutchison wouldn't want these kids to fail at their education at school. You know that my son's participation in Band is a grade for the class. My daughter has her studies and with her grandpa gone, she doesn't want really to walk into the house up there, brings too many memories back that she just isn't ready for and I'm not going to force her. I just don' want to throw her off health-wise after she has done so well. Her grandma Pat don't care about that or all that my daughter and I have been through, not to mention my son.
Pat wrote she didn't understand what the problem that everyone has with her and Kristy...Really?
I can take the hits,being treated badly by them, but to treat the kids that way was about the lowest, dirtiest and dastardly thing a grandparent could do, it may take the kids a long while to get over this. Her comment was that "She was doing her part to be a good mother and grandmother. "
Dad Gary was a good grandpa and was so very proud of these kids and everything that they have achieved since their dad's death. I tell my son and daughter that every time they feel sad about their dad and granddad's passing. I know he loved them as he did with all his grand-kids, he may not have said it that much but he always showed it with his actions. He was a good man.
As so are you Schizz, I know you care for so many and I hate having to share this kind of thing with you. I would rather ask how you and the family are doing. Sending my love everyday with kisses and hugs. I always think about you whenever I write. You are so very important. I am proud of you! Please take care of your self, I love you Stephen!
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