Thursday, July 31, 2014
Hi IM Schizz, Love You
Tuesday, July 29, 2014
Just Reaching Out, To Give A Loving Hand.
Just wanted to let IM Schizz know that I am thinking about him and hope and praying all is well up in Amesbury, MA. Hanging in there here. My son is done with Band Camp but still has some more driver's ed courses to take. I had my daughter give up her cross country because she was having trouble breathing and having pain in her side. Just didn't want to push it with her Medical history with Anorexia.
I haven't felt too good, not big surprise there with everything that has been going on. I do pray you are doing ok, Schizz, Please be taking care of yourself , Love you so much, wish I could see you again..
I haven't felt too good, not big surprise there with everything that has been going on. I do pray you are doing ok, Schizz, Please be taking care of yourself , Love you so much, wish I could see you again..
Sunday, July 27, 2014
For You, IM Schizz,Thinking, Hoping And Praying!
Thoughts of you all the time, Hoping you are doing fine,
Blessings come in those little things we do everyday, we
show in every way. Three little words for right now will,
have to do. "I love you" and I am praying for you!
-MEM,SJW-H
Friday, July 25, 2014
Thursday, July 24, 2014
Monday, July 14, 2014
A Loving Heart, Is A Happy Heart, Therefore A Healthy Heart!
I think about you Schizz and the heart trouble you have had. So I always pray for you that God will always strengthen your health always. Please know you are loved. The kids and I love you very much!
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Sunday, July 13, 2014
Hi Schizz, Hope And Pray You Are Doing Ok
Thinking about you and everyone there in Amesbury. Hope the family is doing fine. Praying you are taking care of yourself. I know you are caring for everyone there. Please be safe, Love ya lots!
Just Another Day, Another Reason To Smile
Saturday, July 12, 2014
Love You Schizz!
Just wanted to tell you that I am thinking about you and your family. Hope and pray you are doing fine and keeping well. I always think about you with your health concerns. Please take care of yourself, love you so much!
Full-Pull...Down
What a stressful two days, The Calling hours were ...well not good. Gary looked a little bloated and his hands had started to wrinkle, my late husband Jeff had looked so much like him, so seeing dad in the casket was extremely hard, especially for my daughter who started to cry instantly along with myself. My son was very quiet. Gary and Pat's Pastor was nasty to us(real christian like wasn't it) he always hated us, so that really shouldn't had surprised me any. We had never said or did anything to even deserve being treated that way. I should have known some lies were said about us because he always praises my late husband unkind sister , her husband and son (my nephew).
The kids and I came home and I was in tears, I had to call mom and dad to tell them what happened. I had told them that Gary's life wasn't even recognized, his childhood, his brother or sister, parents, or his other grandchildren in pictures.
Kristy's (Jeff's sister) son, her and her husband were all the focus in the pictures and slide presentation, while Jeff wasn't pictured, not his brother Steve and his wife, their kids , My kids nor I as well.
Gary's sister Pauline was so happy to see the kids and I and introduced us as Gary's grandchildren and daughter-in-law. Gary was born when Pauline was 16, and helped her mom , dad raise her brother. She will be 85 next week and last of her family. Bless her heart, she was thinking about everyone. The calling hours ended with Steve and Dorothy's daughter in tears along with my daughter for all the thoughtlessness. On top of everything else, the planter that I signed all my family and I's name too, couldn't be found. The way we were treated, I was so scared, Kristy and her husband threw it out.
Mom was so worried that was going to happen and fretted that they wouldn't let my son be pall-bearer for his grandpa.
The Funeral came and was held at their church, My son looked so nice and so grown up , there was no problem with him as Pall-bearer and I made sure that the kids and I were the third car in the line-up to the cemetery. The ceremony, again really wasn' t about Gary, the pastor turned it into a sermon and read Gary's obituary out loud . Keep in mind most of these people I have known since I met my late husband and probably wondered why, I was never mentioned. Again, my nephew (Kristy's son) was acclaimed as the only one that Gary would miss out of his grandchildren(This of course wasn't true) Kristy, her husband, their son and step daughter had a front row seat in front of the Pastor and was glorifying her self with his words.
I was so upset as it was because Gary's coffin was open and everything that had happened the day before, I only hugged Pat as we were going out after viewing Gary, I didn't hug Kristy , nor her husband, nor my kids or Steve and Dorothy's kids. We had enough. Like mom told me, if I didn't feel like it, I didn't have to.
We all drove out to the cemetery, now before the service, Steve's wife, Dorothy had confided in me how upset she was about how we all were being treated and when she confronted Pat about this, she had stated it was because we weren't around much and this was eating Dorothy up, so when we reached the cemetery, I think it just had reached it's boiling point. Gary was placed beside Jeff's grave and seeing Gary's coffin and Jeff's headstone, it got to me, Gary had the same color casket Jeff did too/. Dorothy made it plain that the kids and I stand up beside her and behind Pat, Steve and Pauline and made sure we all got a flower from Gary's spray.
We all broke up and started to talk to all who had attended the graveside service. Kristy wanted to get a picture of her son William beside the casket. William and his dad were wondering around the cemetery, but instead of just going to get them, she screeched at them, bound to get that picture and a picture of her mom, Dorothy , Steve and all of the kids in front of it too. I wasn't paying any attention to this until, Dorothy and her got in a fight and the voices started to raise.
This was all happening in front of Gary's Casket . I heard Kristy yell at Dorothy ' You know what, you just ruined it for her" in truth , it was for herself. This grabbed the funeral director and attendant's attention. According to my daughter who witnessed all this, Dorothy, didn't want her picture taken in front of the casket . Kristy just threw a fit, and stomped off "I had enough of this" complained we were all selfish"...Really? Selfish, if anyone was being selfish it was her..It almost reminded me of the fights Jeff and her used to get into, only Dorothy called her what we all wanted to but never had the guts to say. I repeat and I quote "I'm going to dunk that B..I ---and so on" This she said to Steve,honesty I think he enjoyed it. My daughter sure did. So did my parents, when I told them.
Dorothy didn't know we knew what she said but I thanked her for standing up for us and my sure appreciated it. I know this episode will be the talk of Willard, for a long time. Kristy most assuredly was disrespectful to her family but especially to her father's memory. This upset my son very much.
They finally found the planter " they misplaced it" I was told until the church ceremony, not sure why, although, I am still suspicious. My daughter placed a rose on her dad's grave before we headed home.
I felt so hurt for dad's memory, I posted my memories of the stories and things he loved on Facebook. I am also constructing a video in his memory with picture of us all and his family. I feel that's only right.
I knew Gary for 22 years and he'd been like a second dad to me. The one memory that sticks out is the times we went to Bowling Green, Ohio to watch the tractor pulling championship. He always rooted for The Red International Harvesters and The Orange Allis Chalmers . Whenever the tractors were successful in pulling the sled out it was always "Full Pull"
The kids and I came home and I was in tears, I had to call mom and dad to tell them what happened. I had told them that Gary's life wasn't even recognized, his childhood, his brother or sister, parents, or his other grandchildren in pictures.
Kristy's (Jeff's sister) son, her and her husband were all the focus in the pictures and slide presentation, while Jeff wasn't pictured, not his brother Steve and his wife, their kids , My kids nor I as well.
Gary's sister Pauline was so happy to see the kids and I and introduced us as Gary's grandchildren and daughter-in-law. Gary was born when Pauline was 16, and helped her mom , dad raise her brother. She will be 85 next week and last of her family. Bless her heart, she was thinking about everyone. The calling hours ended with Steve and Dorothy's daughter in tears along with my daughter for all the thoughtlessness. On top of everything else, the planter that I signed all my family and I's name too, couldn't be found. The way we were treated, I was so scared, Kristy and her husband threw it out.
Mom was so worried that was going to happen and fretted that they wouldn't let my son be pall-bearer for his grandpa.
The Funeral came and was held at their church, My son looked so nice and so grown up , there was no problem with him as Pall-bearer and I made sure that the kids and I were the third car in the line-up to the cemetery. The ceremony, again really wasn' t about Gary, the pastor turned it into a sermon and read Gary's obituary out loud . Keep in mind most of these people I have known since I met my late husband and probably wondered why, I was never mentioned. Again, my nephew (Kristy's son) was acclaimed as the only one that Gary would miss out of his grandchildren(This of course wasn't true) Kristy, her husband, their son and step daughter had a front row seat in front of the Pastor and was glorifying her self with his words.
I was so upset as it was because Gary's coffin was open and everything that had happened the day before, I only hugged Pat as we were going out after viewing Gary, I didn't hug Kristy , nor her husband, nor my kids or Steve and Dorothy's kids. We had enough. Like mom told me, if I didn't feel like it, I didn't have to.
We all drove out to the cemetery, now before the service, Steve's wife, Dorothy had confided in me how upset she was about how we all were being treated and when she confronted Pat about this, she had stated it was because we weren't around much and this was eating Dorothy up, so when we reached the cemetery, I think it just had reached it's boiling point. Gary was placed beside Jeff's grave and seeing Gary's coffin and Jeff's headstone, it got to me, Gary had the same color casket Jeff did too/. Dorothy made it plain that the kids and I stand up beside her and behind Pat, Steve and Pauline and made sure we all got a flower from Gary's spray.
We all broke up and started to talk to all who had attended the graveside service. Kristy wanted to get a picture of her son William beside the casket. William and his dad were wondering around the cemetery, but instead of just going to get them, she screeched at them, bound to get that picture and a picture of her mom, Dorothy , Steve and all of the kids in front of it too. I wasn't paying any attention to this until, Dorothy and her got in a fight and the voices started to raise.
This was all happening in front of Gary's Casket . I heard Kristy yell at Dorothy ' You know what, you just ruined it for her" in truth , it was for herself. This grabbed the funeral director and attendant's attention. According to my daughter who witnessed all this, Dorothy, didn't want her picture taken in front of the casket . Kristy just threw a fit, and stomped off "I had enough of this" complained we were all selfish"...Really? Selfish, if anyone was being selfish it was her..It almost reminded me of the fights Jeff and her used to get into, only Dorothy called her what we all wanted to but never had the guts to say. I repeat and I quote "I'm going to dunk that B..I ---and so on" This she said to Steve,honesty I think he enjoyed it. My daughter sure did. So did my parents, when I told them.
Dorothy didn't know we knew what she said but I thanked her for standing up for us and my sure appreciated it. I know this episode will be the talk of Willard, for a long time. Kristy most assuredly was disrespectful to her family but especially to her father's memory. This upset my son very much.
They finally found the planter " they misplaced it" I was told until the church ceremony, not sure why, although, I am still suspicious. My daughter placed a rose on her dad's grave before we headed home.
I felt so hurt for dad's memory, I posted my memories of the stories and things he loved on Facebook. I am also constructing a video in his memory with picture of us all and his family. I feel that's only right.
I knew Gary for 22 years and he'd been like a second dad to me. The one memory that sticks out is the times we went to Bowling Green, Ohio to watch the tractor pulling championship. He always rooted for The Red International Harvesters and The Orange Allis Chalmers . Whenever the tractors were successful in pulling the sled out it was always "Full Pull"
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Have To Remember!
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Monday, July 7, 2014
Sorry I haven't Told you I love You Lately, Schizz
Wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you tonight and wanted to tell you , I love you, Hope and pray you are doing fine!
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Holding Our Own
Today has been better, the kids and I went to "Gibson Florist" to wire a planter for Gary's calling hours and funeral. Everyone pitched in and collected money to do it. I feel in better spirits because they replaced the candles with a picture of him. It was probably in stages and you know how with grief "I can jump the gun'' there are a series of pictures of his heritage which is nice. I know Wednesday and Thursday will be tough, a couple days in being treated like dirt, just being hurt for their pleasure.
I remember what mom and my sister told me "Just hold your head high, be kind, gracious and classy and above all act the way a true christian would act even though they won't" without Gary there to stabilize and bring comfort with his friendly smile, it will be hard to face these days ahead.
My son will be a pall bearer and he's proud to do it for his grandpa and his dad as it should be. My kids and I will focus on that instead of all the negativity around us.
I remember what mom and my sister told me "Just hold your head high, be kind, gracious and classy and above all act the way a true christian would act even though they won't" without Gary there to stabilize and bring comfort with his friendly smile, it will be hard to face these days ahead.
My son will be a pall bearer and he's proud to do it for his grandpa and his dad as it should be. My kids and I will focus on that instead of all the negativity around us.
We will miss you dad and grandpa Hutchison
Sunday, July 6, 2014
What We Were Worth.
Pat finally posted Gary's online obituary from Lindsey-Kocher Funeral Home in Willard, Ohio. This is the most upsetting written tribute to his memory. No picture of him, just a picture of candles. Even though I was always told how I was like a daughter to them, I was never mentioned. The kids were only mentioned and Jeff was mentioned only for his death. My family was upset and hurt along with me. My friend who just lost her daughter "Connie" was the only one who told me that Gary truly loved me like a daughter as well as she and her family did as well, that was nice and I thanked her.
You really know how much you are worth when someone dies. I found that out a long time ago when my grandfather died and how his wife (Step-grandma) treated all of us. To make a long story short, we were treated bad, especially my mom. I will give credit to Linda in honoring Jeff and remembering us and sharing how it was really Gary who cared about us and loved us, Jeff meant so much to him and them. What Linda told me, well that meant more to me than anything else. My mom said it ''Pat disrespected Jeff by not mentioning me, when everyone else was mentioned because I was his wife". I guess after all these years, I'm used to it.
I mean 'Why should anything change"
I want to thank my family, Linda and those like Schizz who had thought of us and cared about us for all we had gone through. Your love and kindness mean so much more than anything here on earth. Love you all!
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You really know how much you are worth when someone dies. I found that out a long time ago when my grandfather died and how his wife (Step-grandma) treated all of us. To make a long story short, we were treated bad, especially my mom. I will give credit to Linda in honoring Jeff and remembering us and sharing how it was really Gary who cared about us and loved us, Jeff meant so much to him and them. What Linda told me, well that meant more to me than anything else. My mom said it ''Pat disrespected Jeff by not mentioning me, when everyone else was mentioned because I was his wife". I guess after all these years, I'm used to it.
I mean 'Why should anything change"
I want to thank my family, Linda and those like Schizz who had thought of us and cared about us for all we had gone through. Your love and kindness mean so much more than anything here on earth. Love you all!
Saturday, July 5, 2014
Lost Gary July 5, 2014
My dad and mom called me this morning to tell me that Pat had phoned them that my second dad had died this morning. I am feeling a little numb right now and the kids are upset too. I know Gary had been struggling so hard to fight all what he was going through. The only comfort is that now he isn't battling anymore. I know that his dad, Jeff and Uncle Donald and he are all together working on the most beautiful farm in heaven. I am going to miss him. He was the one that kept me level headed when Jeff died. Dad you can now rest, love you. Thank you all for your love, support and prayers. It has meant so much to the kids and I!
Friday, July 4, 2014
America, the Beautiful
Hope Everyone Has A Safe And Wonderful Fourth, Today my son will be marching with The Olentangy Band Of Pride, at Lewis Center, Ohio.. Afterwords the kids and I will be going over to my folks to celebrate the holiday. I will be thinking of all of you today, for Schizz and his family in Amesbury, Ma. to small town to small town God Bless and Love you all!
Thursday, July 3, 2014
Beautiful Night, Schizz
Very cool and comfortable night, hope your evening is beautiful, love you very much Schizz
Wednesday, July 2, 2014
Hi Schizz, Hope You Are Having A Good Day!
One of my friends posted this on FaceBook, she use to teach English for one of Delaware's School but is retired now. When I was in my Senior year in High School, we had to read George Orwell's "1984" I think he wrote it in the 1930's or 40's , I really can't remember,It was ok, I never much cared for his writings because they always seemed kind of dark and depressing.
Anyway, she found this comparison to the book and how things really were in 1984, thought it interesting, I thought you might also. Hope you have had a good day so far, thinking of you!
Love You So Much!
Anyway, she found this comparison to the book and how things really were in 1984, thought it interesting, I thought you might also. Hope you have had a good day so far, thinking of you!
Love You So Much!
Tuesday, July 1, 2014
Howdy, Howdy, Howdy..Its Hot, Hot..Hot
Mercy, it is warm today, I think the computer is hot too because it is running slower than usual....not good for this thing...although my sister's computer runs slower than mine, that is really scary. I am thinking that later on this month when I get my central air unit fixed, it will get cooler out..watch, that is the way it always goes. I'll be glad when the cold front comes in tonight, it will bring temps into the upper seventies. Trouble is that with the muggy hot air and a dry cold front, nasty storms are being forecast..
So here we go again with the weather roller coaster..right now we are climbing that hill. Anyway, this week has been so far a "Stinker" in the biggest form. Mom, my neighbor lady and myself have had one of those weeks where, no matter what you try to accomplish, it just doesn't seem to take.
Really my week is ok besides all the health concerns with my second dad (Kids grandpa Gary), with band practice for my son for his upcoming march in the Fourth Of July Parade, helping out my neighbor lady whose car battery needs replaced and my daughter starting cross-country, I'm going to paint "Taxi" on the side of my poor car. I don't really mind though.
Hot weather always seems to make things worse, I say that because the heat brings out the "cruddy critters" out in full force around this park. That is when I really appreciate the indoors, "No creeps" to worry about "I'll enjoy the cool air indoors thank you very much" I'm just say'n some of these men around here need to get themselves "Blow-up Rubber Girlfriends" because the live ones just aren't interested.
I am sure it will get better, I am looking forward to the forth to see my parents and my siblings again. The kids enjoy seeing their cousins too, so that will be good.
Hope and pray you are doing good Schizz, love you so much, hope you to are staying cool and taking it easy in this weather. You know I think about you everyday, I am so happy about that, good thoughts are the greatest!
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So here we go again with the weather roller coaster..right now we are climbing that hill. Anyway, this week has been so far a "Stinker" in the biggest form. Mom, my neighbor lady and myself have had one of those weeks where, no matter what you try to accomplish, it just doesn't seem to take.
Really my week is ok besides all the health concerns with my second dad (Kids grandpa Gary), with band practice for my son for his upcoming march in the Fourth Of July Parade, helping out my neighbor lady whose car battery needs replaced and my daughter starting cross-country, I'm going to paint "Taxi" on the side of my poor car. I don't really mind though.
Hot weather always seems to make things worse, I say that because the heat brings out the "cruddy critters" out in full force around this park. That is when I really appreciate the indoors, "No creeps" to worry about "I'll enjoy the cool air indoors thank you very much" I'm just say'n some of these men around here need to get themselves "Blow-up Rubber Girlfriends" because the live ones just aren't interested.
I am sure it will get better, I am looking forward to the forth to see my parents and my siblings again. The kids enjoy seeing their cousins too, so that will be good.
Hope and pray you are doing good Schizz, love you so much, hope you to are staying cool and taking it easy in this weather. You know I think about you everyday, I am so happy about that, good thoughts are the greatest!
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